Robert & Kay Camenisch encouraging and equipping relationships

Anger Quiz

Take this anger quiz to evaluate the anger in your life.

A

  1. Which symptoms do you express when you are angry?
    • Become violent (throw, hit, kick, slam doors . . .)

B

  1. How often do you express anger?
  2. How often do you get mad and suppress it?
  3. Who makes you mad? Rate how high your anger is toward each.
    None Slight Significant Extreme
    Self:
    Family:
    Close friends:
    Co-workers:
    Other drivers:
    Anybody and everybody:
    Other:

C

  1. How often do you ask forgiveness for your anger with the following people?
    Never Rarely Sometimes Usually Always
    Self:
    Family:
    Close friends:
    Co-workers:
    Other drivers:
    Anybody and everybody:
    Other:

D

  1. What level of separation does your anger cause in relationships with:
    None Slight Significant Extreme Absolute
    Spouse or Parents:
    Children or siblings:
    Other family:
    Co-workers:
    Friends:
    Acquaintances:
  2. How much pain does your anger inflict upon:
    None Slight Significant Intense Devastating
    Spouse or Parents:
    Children or siblings:
    Other family:
    Co-workers:
    Friends:
    Acquaintances:

E

  1. Do you sometimes not understand why you get angry?
  2. Do you usually feel you are justified in your anger?
  3. Is your anger sometimes good?
  4. Do you know how God feels about your anger?...

F

  1. How hard have you tried to overcome anger?
  2. How much do you want to overcome your anger?
  3. How much hope do you have for overcoming anger?

Anger Quiz Score Totals

  1. Warning Signals

    For section A, no points were assigned for your responses. Take special note of the symptoms you listed:

    These warning flags should remind you to back up and dial down. Furthermore, when these signals show themselves, chances are that people around you are already experiencing you as angry. Relationships are often damaged when you don’t think you are angry. (Read more on warning signs in Lesson 3 of Uprooting Anger.)

    God’s word: “When you are angered, sin not.” (Eph 4:26)—(Read more on this verse in lesson 4 of Uprooting Anger.)

  2. Overall breadth and depth of anger in your life:

    Your score: out of 40.

    The more frequent and violent your anger (in actions, words, or silence), the more damage it causes yourself and others. Studies show that anger—expressed or suppressed—causes serious physical, psychological, and relational damage. Asking forgiveness and restoring relationships minimizes the destruction caused.

    Look for a pattern in your responses. When particular people frequently make you mad, or you are violent toward them, it is usually tied to unforgiveness, bitterness, or high expectations. (See lessons 11, 13, and 19 in Uprooting Anger).

    God’s word: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.” (Eph. 4:31)

  3. Repairing the damage

    Section C is to factor in the importance of asking forgiveness when you have offended others through your anger. If you ask forgiveness for your anger, it minimizes the damage. Consequently, as scores were tallied for Section B, points were subtracted from the totals, if you received credit for asking forgiveness.

    Anger causes offense and hurts relationships. When you confess your wrong to those who witnessed your anger—without casting blame on others—and ask for forgiveness, it heals the hurts caused by anger and often restores the relationship.Any relationship that suffers from anger without experiencing forgiveness is in trouble. If you usually ask forgiveness, good for you. Strive to be consistent in order to strengthen your relationships.

    God’s word: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” (Rom. 12:18)

    God’s word: “If therefore you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar, and go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.” (Matt 5:23-24)

  4. Level of destruction in relationships

    Your score: out of 48.

    (Forty-eight points indicates absolute, devastating damage in all relationships.)

    When we hold onto anger, it destroys peace and joy in our own lives as well as in those around us, causing hurt and schisms, making it harder to live in harmony, more difficult to work together, and creating tension and friction over minor issues.

    God’s Word: Instead of causing strife and pain, “encourage one another, and build up one another.” (Th 5:11)

    God’s Word: “But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called "Today," lest any one of you be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” (Heb 3:13)

  5. Understanding of the nature of anger

    Points are not assigned for section E, but responses to your answers are given below.

    8.

    Do you sometimes not understand why you get angry?

    Anger springs from the heart, not the mind, so it is often difficult to understand what the root of our anger is. Uprooting Anger is a study of verses and incidents in the Bible that help us understand the different roots in our lives that lead us to respond in anger.

    God’s word: “The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; Who can understand it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give to each man according to his ways, According to the results of his deeds.” (Jer 17:9-10) We cannot understand our own hearts, but through His Word, God will reveal it to us so we can be free from the bondage of anger.

    9–11.

    Is your anger justified? Sometimes good? How does God feel about it?

    God tells us, “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice” (Eph 4:31). All anger is destructive and needs to be put away, even when the situation seems to justify anger. Uprooting Anger explores ways to deal with anger—even when there is cause. Lesson 2 looks at Jesus in the temple to see why it’s ok for Jesus to be angry but not me.

    God’s Word: “The anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” (James 1:20)

    God’s word: “Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret—it only causes harm. (Psalm 37:8)

  6. Motivation level

    12.

    You to overcome anger.

    Today is a new day. With God’s help and with application of His truths in your life, you can get freedom from anger. It is possible. It will take effort on your part, but freedom from anger will bring such peace and joy in your life and in your relationships that it is well worth the effort.

    13.

    You to overcome anger.

    The likelihood of you overcoming anger is closely linked to how much you want to conquer it, how much you will commit to the effort, and how much you are willing to let God work in your life. Many people have tried hard to stop being angry and have failed because they went about it the wrong way. If you are less than determined, ask God to give you the desire and determination to get free.

    14.

    You have hope that you can overcome anger.

    It’s hard to maintain hope when past efforts failed, but with God’s help, the bondage of anger can be broken. Uprooting Anger builds hope and shows how to attack the roots from which anger grows. “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor. 12:6)

    The likelihood of you overcoming anger is closely linked to how much you want to conquer it and how much you are willing to let God work in your life. Many people have tried hard to stop being angry and have failed because they went about it the wrong way.